How to release hate
If we feel hate, it means that something or someone is actively diminishing us. We do feel bad when feeling hate, for the very reason that an active problem is present and it requires our attention to resolve! Hate is not an emotion to bottle up, to do so is very dangerous as it means you are encouraging an extremely negative process. Holding hate is something most people cannot do safely, and it quickly ends up re-projecting outward to then hurt those innocent around us.
What is the reason behind Hate? Pitta is responsible for digestion, metabolism, nutrition and temperature. The pitta dosha, when in balance, leads to contentment and intelligence. But, when out of balance or imbalance it can cause ulcers and arouse anger, hate and jealousy.
Why Pitta dosa imbalance in the body? In a world where our attention and energy are constantly being pulled in multiple directions, it is easy to forego exercise and unhealthy habits. However, neglecting healthy foods and regular activity poses a massive threat to our wellbeing long term. Alcoholic and fermented drinks, coffee, oily, hot, salty, and heavy foods such as anything fried, egg yolks, nuts, hot spices, and hot drinks etc the main reasons behind increasing pitta dosha.
Releasing Hate as soon as possible! Many times the best way to be kind is to walk away without attachments and commitment, to leave as little behind for the reflection of hate to work against you. Sometimes others will push anger to conflict, and we have to be ready to deal with such conflict also. Yes it’s true as well that, It isn’t always easy to walk away from hate. However, due to the way humans mature, there are times when we’re energised to change. At these moments, you have a limited window to push and make changes in your life. Don’t waste these key moments of life where we’re energised to change. Understand, It takes empowerment to change, if you are in a situation where your power is being taken away, it is harder to walk away from hate. This sometimes means the first step to removing hate is empowering yourself and using your new power to drive away from the hate.
Why You need Balance your Power! The true lesson to learn about hate isn’t to reflect that feeling of destruction back out, but instead to release judgments in a kind and gentle manner to grow for yourself. You are helping yourself. We all have Pitta within us and we provides practical and best advice on how to balance that naturally without harming you and others, Here’s how:
- A change in lifestyle: Sleep on time between 9-10am and wakeup early in the morning around 5-6am
- Release the judgement driving the feelings of anger and hate.
- To move on with our own life without attachment to where our feelings of hate arise.
- Take the time to focus releasing the anger itself.
- As you work against each smaller problem, keep your awareness open so you can learn more about the nature of the feelings. As the process unfolds, you will get more information which you can further use to unravel the source of the hate. When an issue still keeps coming back, then fully release the source of the problem. With this awareness, you can spot the sub-elements feeding into the feelings of hate and more precisely work on your healing process.
- Deep breathing exercises. There are three pranayama techniques that’ll help you with hate in particular: Deep diaphragmatic breathing: Mentally say, “Breathing in, I am aware of my hate.” “Breathing out, I let it go.” With each inhalation feel the hate. With each exhalation feel the emotion leaving your body. By paying attention to your anger and hate, you are allowing it to dissolve and pass away. You’ll feel so relax after that.
- Yogaasnas: Ardha Matsyendrasana (Half Twist Pose). This pose can be likened to wringing anger out of the body. The Liver in Traditional Chinese Medicine is associated with anger. When body twist, it directly affect the organs and specifically the liver, to detox the body of hurt, grudges and resentment. Lengthen the spine on the inhale and as you exhale gently twist or spiral your belly, rib cage, chest and head to the right and back. Visualise releasing any stored up emotions as you gently twist and exhale. Repeat on the other side.
- Shavasana (Corpse Pose). If there’s one pose that forces one to let it all go, then it’s only “Shavasana”. Lie down on your back with your arms down by your sides, palms facing skyward. Let your feet fall out comfortably, close your eyes and travel inward. See if you can practice staying completely still for this asana. The only movement is the breath moving through the entire body – locating stored emotions with the in-breath, and releasing them with the out-breath.
- Use Pitta pacifying herbs and oils: There are plenty of of natural herbs to balance pitta dosha.
- Coconut & Brahmi Oil- Great for Pittas to lubricate and cool internally. Placing it on the body from head-to-toe for a self-abhyanga (self-massage) is good before a bath.
- Lukewarm peppermint are cooling and soothing.
- Turmeric – Great for inflammation and (a Pitta tendency).
- Avoid Pitta aggravating foods: Salty, pungent and sour foodsshould be avoided.
- Avoid all meat (especially red meat)
- Alcohol is a big for those with a pitta inflammation. Think about what happens when you put alcohol on fire.
- Drink plenty of water everyday.
- Eat cooling, naturally sweet, bitter and astringent foods, ample amounts of coconut water, coconut milk and coconut oil should be ingested.
- Cucumbers – A great cooling food.
- Fruits & berries – Naturally sweet fruits for the Pitta Dosha.
- Avoid overworking- There’s a big difference between an effective leader and a strict boss. Practice moderation, kindness and compassion.
- Keep supportive, loving and nurturing people around you.
- Stop the blame game: Looking inward is the only answer. Anger and hate is all about you and no one else.
- Balance rest and activity, allowing some free time everyday. Be careful not to create unnecessary time pressures for yourself.
- Do not skip meals, specially breakfast and do not wait until you are famished to eat
- Regularly spend time in nature. Take walks in the woods and along natural bodies of water. Keep plants and fresh flowers in your home and office. Walk under the moonlight.
- Laugh a lot, every day without fear.